Patrons of the Sacred Art

Can't log in? Contact Us

OPEN TO REGISTER: Click HERE if you want to join Alchemy Forums!

+ Reply to Thread
Page 3 of 3 FirstFirst 1 2 3
Results 21 to 24 of 24

Thread: Relationship Cycle: Please Help

  1. #21
    Join Date
    May 2021
    Location
    Canada
    Posts
    153
    Quote Originally Posted by elixirmixer View Post
    hmmm.

    I actually agree with the lust being a regression thing.

    And I have never considered it before, but you have made me realise something...

    I do not know what a healthy sexual lifestyle is.

    I have no point of reference for this at all in fact. Like I guess I am a bit worried that if i turn off my sex drive I wont be able to turn it back on...?? And then also, I want to raise the kundalini and get those energies pumping, but how do you do that without having sex?

    Like I noticed over the last 30 days that my sex drive wasnt increasing as I was building up days on the no fap calendar, my sex drive was actually de-creasing. I would go to wank out of habbit but then my mind would just drift off to my work and I would just stop and move on with my day.

    This is scary for me. Like I do feel as if the perversion is a breach in my spirit and needs to go. Im cool with that. I would be thrilled with a clean and clear mind and healthy respect for women.

    But at the cost of my kundalini activation potential? Not a chance. How do you get the most out of sexual energy while not being a perverted old man?

    The tough questions in life.... To wank... or not to wank.....
    Hi,

    I know that a man and his wife should both get a mutual boost out of making love.
    I will share personally here; I do not watch porn and do not "fap"- I do make love to my wife often enough (What does this mean?) I am 29 and so is she so.. we are still in our lovemaking zenith. Over the years (10 now) things have and continue to change. She is the mother of my children, and I care for her as if she was an extension of my own body. I do not understand why you can't "get the most out of sexual energy" with your wife. Another thing, your body puts a lot of resources into your swimmers; so don't waste that energy.

    You have to think of it like a hot tub; when you lift the lid off and get inside with your honey, its a lot of fun and a good night to be had. BUT you will burn excess hydro/electricity. This is definitely worth it though and you/her have no regrets. Now, you decide to go in the hot tub alone every night while she busies herself inside. You burned a lot of excess electricity every day costing you of time/labor and you didn't have half as much fun on any given night as the night that you spent with your wife in the hot tub. You should have spent more time with her inside building a relationship and then you would really party it up when you get in that hot-tub and it will be steamy for both of you.

    Well, there you go, a married guys perspective take it or leave it.
    There is always going to be ups and down, Sunshine and Rain.
    Don't let the road conditions mix you up, you are in the Drivers Seat.
    Responsible.
    We have all struggled with one thing, another thing, or many things.

  2. #22
    Join Date
    Jul 2017
    Posts
    736
    Blog Entries
    7
    All your questions are what every sadhu yogi had to face.
    This is where you start.
    I will answer you questions Elixr tommoro But it will be a long post

  3. #23
    Join Date
    Jul 2017
    Posts
    736
    Blog Entries
    7
    drive I wont be able to turn it back on...?? And then also, I want to raise the kundalini and get those energies pumping, but how do you do that without having sex?
    You wont lose sex drive from not masturbating or having sex.
    Your biological sex drive cant be turned off unless you have a medical condition pertaining to sexual dysfunction.

    To raise Kundalini energy. Play with yourself before meditation.
    Cycle breathing methods work as well.
    Flying metallic essence posture i detailed works to.
    Focus on base of spine nerve cluster or chakra.
    Many ways in books on the net.

    Like I noticed over the last 30 days that my sex drive wasnt increasing as I was building up days on the no fap calendar, my sex drive was actually de-creasing. I would go to wank out of habbit but then my mind would just drift off to my work and I would just stop and move on with my day.
    This is just psycholgical. Masturbation relies on fantasy.
    Fantasy is never as arousing as real life.
    Again non masturbation will not cause a lack of sex drive.
    To prove it to yourself. Ask your wife to kiss your naked chest and all the drive will be back.

    This is scary for me. Like I do feel as if the perversion is a breach in my spirit and needs to go. Im cool with that. I would be thrilled with a clean and clear mind and healthy respect for women.
    You can.
    perversion has nothing to do with spiritual sexual philosophy and action.

    But at the cost of my kundalini activation potential? Not a chance. How do you get the most out of sexual energy while not being a perverted old man?
    Perversion will stop the raising of Kundalini. Sexual energy.
    Sexual energy is the most powerful energy life has.
    We are born for it. Made by it.
    The mind is a vessel or bottle for sexual energy.
    If the mind is reckless, cruel, lies, cheats this behaviour creates a vessel a mind, that is unstable for sexual energy.
    The mind or vessel cracks, becomes warped. The sexual energy becomes warped.
    Kundalini is called a coiled snake.
    A coiled snake is full of potential energy.
    Like a bullet in a chamber.
    If you try to fire the bullet through a weak barrel the gun misfires.
    For sexual energy to be raised the associations you have that arouse you need to become mentally purified.
    Example.
    You find BDSM arousing.
    In your fantasies add lots of love and affection to whatever sex act you are imagining.
    There are no dirty or shameful sex acts.
    They are just acts. The behaviour in how these sex acts are performed determines whether they become unhealthy or healthy.
    Bhogar raised Kundalini and has sex with quite a few different women. So did many saints and siddhars, yogis.
    It was not about how much or little they had sex but about the behaviour within the sex acts. Purity comes from sincere love and affection regardless of how dirty a sex act might look or seem.
    This is just the beginning of it but its purity of heart.
    And Yes you can have a pure heart and still find a Gangbang arousing.
    Western christianity has skewed and distorted the notion of purity when it comes to sex.

    Forget get the notion spirtual.purity comes from abstaining from sex. It doesnt. Those that claim it does reach spiritual purity through other means and because sex is demonised still in spiritual circles they count their blessing down to a lack of it.

    Whatever perverted thought.you have. Add sincere love and affection to it. To whomever you are doing it with.
    Roleplay with your wife. Be adventurous. Be honest.
    You need to unwarp.your sexual thoughts.
    You do this by adding light to them.
    You do this and your attitudes towards sexual partners and women in general naturally improve.

    Its not that difficult. We naturally want love and affection.
    Rekindle that love and affection in your sexual mind.
    And just lean into it.

    A south african women who was fed up of men using her for sex told me. Sex is glue for couples. Its adult playtime.
    Lovemaking is the behaviour not the sex act.
    Accept your imperfections and try to perfect them.
    Add love and light to them mentally.

    A Guru took all this students to a legal prositute.
    Many ran off calling him a fraud.
    Those that stayed understood. It not going to a prositute that is bad or sinful. Its how you behaved when you were with her.

    There is tantra that you and your wife can practise that will raise kundalini as well. Why not both go and see a legal prositute together as a couple. It can work wonders for a marriage with sexual problems.

    Hope your attitudes evolve with understanding.
    Last edited by Kibric; 11-20-2021 at 08:52 AM.

  4. #24
    Join Date
    Jul 2018
    Location
    I get around.
    Posts
    381


    Matthew 19:3-6

    And Pharisees came to Jesus, testing Him and asking, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?”

    He replied, “Have you never read that He who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined inseparably to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?

    So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

+ Reply to Thread

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts